Tradition relinquishes most of the wedding decisions to the bride and her entourage. Women might usually take on more active roles in this stage, but it does not mean the groom has to sit back, relax, and just nod along.
The bride cannot make all the decisions for you. Getting involved is not only a responsible thing to do, it will also show your fiancée and her family how committed you are to the idea of a legal union.
If you are a groom who is not clear about his duties before the big day, this list can help you ace your role and ensure that the most awaited day of you and your fiancée’s life will be smooth sailing.
Choose your Best Man and Groomsmen
It may seem like a no-brainer, but a lot relies on this decision. The best man has an active role not just on your wedding day but also before and after it. Make sure that your best man is not only someone closest to you but also one who is reliable and dependable. Your groomsmen must be people you can trust and rely on as well. They will the ones to share the burden of deciding and choosing during the planning stage.
Pick Up Your Attire in Advance
Do not wait until the last minute to get your wedding attire. It is not only the bride who should look beautiful on the special day. You must make sure to complement the bride by looking your very best too.
Decide early on what you will wear. Will it be a tuxedo, a suit, or coat and tie? While you are at it, include your best man and groomsmen in getting their outfits. It does not always mean you will pay for their suits because nowadays it is common for groomsmen to pay or rent their own.
Make the Necessary Arrangements
While the bride is busy debating what flowers and cake to choose, you can do the not-less-important decisions like booking the transportation and accommodation for your guests the day before the wedding, and organizing the cash payments for suppliers and other hired services.
Gathering the Mail Addresses for the Invites
In the advent of social media, this may sound so outdated but the traditional way of wedding invitations is still alive and well today. The bride will thank you for sorting out the addresses of all the guests you are going to invite on your special day.
Taking the Time to Practice Dancing
Weddings and dancing always seem to go together. During the reception, it is common practice for the bride and the groom to take their first dance as husband and wife. You can surprise your wife with your dancing prowess by working on your moves and steps. Or you two can sign up on dancing lessons if you prefer a choreographed wedding dance.
Writing and Taking Your Vow to Heart
Most couples have customized wedding vows. You can write your own in advance and make sure to memorize and practice it. But do not overdo the memorizing that it loses its spontaneity and make you sound like a robot. Make it warm, sweet, and meaningful.
Getting Gifts for the Best Man and Groomsmen
Saying “thank you” is a good idea. But after all the time and effort they poured into helping you go through the planning stage and everything after, it is a nice gesture to give your best man and groomsmen something physical they can keep. There are many good groomsmen gifts you can choose from, such as accessories and drinking paraphernalia. They need not be expensive. The most important thing is the thought and effort you give in choosing the tokens of appreciation.
It sounds overwhelming, but just remember that you are not alone in this. You can always ask the assistance of your best man, groomsmen, and family members. Do not forget to enjoy every moment as you won’t go through the same way again. This is a once-in-a-lifetime occasion.
Your wedding day is going to be one of the best times of your life. It is also the beginning of a new chapter so make sure to help in turning it into an unforgettable moment you and your future wife will look back on with fondness.